Recently more and more women are showing that they love themselves with their bodyhair. More bearded women are to be seen in the world. One of them is Little Bear! In Seattle Little Bear is part of a Freekshow and also she is a freelancer.
Today I am going to a concert. Walking up the steps to the hall a man hands out a paper calling me Sir, then stopping and changing it into Madam. I smile and pass the door to the hall. i am wondering if he might be confused now or thinking that he made a mistake calling me sir? English people are always trying to be polite and I think they learn that it is polite to say a title like Sir or Madam when talking to someone. Two groups of people, men and women. But what do you do if someone doesn´t fit?!
Another day in a cafe. Soon they will close and the service person lets people know that soon they will close. Doing this the person uses the expression Lady to let the “women” know that they will be closing in 10 minutes. One of the guests doesn´t like to be called Lady. She had been talking to herself or some invisible people for quite a while. Now I can hear pieces of word, like: This L A D Y word and feminism…..but cannot really understand what she is speaking about. It sounds as if she is giving a talk to an audience at the University, just that the audience is invisible for me.-
I am curious and walk up to her before leaving and ask her how she wants to be adressed as, if not as Lady. She replies that she does not speak with me. Doesn´t she speak with everybody, or might she think I am a man and she doesn´t speak with men? No idea. –
In the internet I am trying to find an explanation for her behaviour. I want to know if there is a certain meaning connected with the word, LADY that I do not know and that might be related to feminism. I remember when I was young and my aunt told me that soon I would be a young Lady that I really hated that. As to me being a lady meant to sit still, to put make up onto my face and to wear clothes that would make it impossible for me to move free and climb up a tree!
In did try to find an explanation for her behaviour. I want to know if there is a certain meaning connected with the word, LADY that I did not know about and that was related to feminism movement.
But instead of finding an explanation I come across a headline in which they say that one of the german politicians sees a sign of tolerance and open mindedness in Conchita Wurst winning the eurovision songcontest
I must say I cannot agree. If I – a real bearded woman – cannot find a job in Germany as a teacher in a school, in a kindergarden or as a sales person in a shop, and are told that I can only have the job if I did shave, then I do not see the open mindedness.
England is much further than germany regarding tolerance and open mindedness. I can find a woman with a beard working in a shop, a bearded woman working as a teachers assistant and I finally found a job in an office.
The eurovision song contest is a happening for the media and of the media. Freedom is different in the media than in daily life. You can behave strange or look strange or different in the media, but if it comes to daily life people react different.
Because an artist with an artifical figure did win the eurovision song contest, does not mean that people are now tolerant towards homosexuals or any kind of people that are not conform with the norm.
To really change something, I think it is necessary that people meet one another and make the experience that there is no need to be afraid of the ones that are “different” or live different.
In the heads of people are so many old ideas coming from the ancestors, some of them are that circus people are stealing children, that gypsies are always stealing and that homesexuality is like a sickness that you can catch if you come in contact with a homosexual person.
Movies could help to let go of these ideas, but even better is to meet one another and to make other experiences.
People of all kind could visit schools and give talks about their lives in order to open up the mind of the next generation and to make them see how colorful the world is. Something they already do now and then in schools, but could be done more.
The concert was good! It was a band from canada the Hutchinson Andrew Trio who came to the Internationalen Bath Music Festival.
Here is an example of their music:
This evening Iiro Rantala from Finland will be playing. Looking forward to listen to him!
And tomorrow Jan Gabarek and The Hilliard Ensemble are playing in Bath Abbey but unfortunately it is alrady sold out. Would have liked to listen to them too.
Its great listening to some good music!
Amazing was for me to hear, that Harnaam is working as a primary school teacher, or teaching assistant (well the media….everywhere different not knowing what is really true!). I think in the UK this is possible, as the idea in this country is to avoid exclusion and to be open for the differences in people. Whereas in Germany I think it would be quite impossible to work in a school as a bearded woman. Well I might be wrong and things are already changing. But when I was living in Germany they made a documentary about me in which I was looking for a job. We went with the camera to an agency who should find a job for me. The man in charge said well he did find employes that wanted to give me a job because of my CV, but when he mentioned the beard they said no way, the parents of the children would not want this and he was afraid of any problems that could arise from me having a beard.
I think in the UK people have been trained in politeness, open-mindedness, and integration of all kinds of people into the community, so there is a possibility for a woman with a beard to be working as a teacher.
In Germany I don´t know, I guess it is due to the history, and the mentality that comes from this, to be afraid of people that are different and therefore a lack of ability to integrate them into the society. In bigger cities such as Berlin or Hamburg it is more likely but in other parts of Germany there is still a narrow mindedness.
I like that in the past years there are more and more women coming out and showing themselves with a beard.
It is about accepting ourselves and living beyond concepts of how you have to look and to behave.
This gives me hope that one day women with beards and women without will just be the normal picture in society and noone will doubt that it is possible that women have beards, as it was when I grew up.
I just watched the german american documentary “No place on earth” which they did show on german TV. It is an interesting documentary about Jews during WWI hiding in a cave under the earth for more than 500 days! 500 days without any daylight, for most of them, well some men had to go up and find food, but the women never got out or the children! And I was imagining how that is, not seeing the green of the plants or the sunlight the colors and how amazing it must be then after this time to be back out there in this brightness and wonder! I think you would get a feeling of wonder and would appreciate everything very much, the food as well, which was very short then.
I did like the film. Some of the survivors are being interviewed in the documentary and visit one more time the caves together with some of their grandchildren. Amazing to see.
Here is a trailer followed by an interview with Janet Tobias the director of the documentary and Judy Gelman Myers on Shalom TV where they speak about making the film: