The Sun UK About Bearded Women

Mariam SUN 2016 MarchToday an article was published in the SUN in the UK written by Diana Appleyard, about three bearded women: Harnaam, Sarah Taylor and myself!

I am happy, that more and more the media is opening up and helping to raise awareness to the reality that some women have facial hair and that women do not have to fight against their body or facial hair. That they can choose to embracee and accept it! For too long women have tried to adapt to ideas of society and now it is time to be free and walk the path they like to walk!

Some women who have a beard might feel between man and woman and I for myself can say I do not feel like a “woman” as defined by society . – We humans can not be divided into only two categories! We all have so many aspects and I feel I have a lot of male but also female aspects so that I cannot say I am just woman in the sense of what women are described to be. The words : Woman – man are labels that take our freedom to be as we are. Why should a man be hard, not cry etc and a woman should behave in a womanlike way not being allowed to sit with legs wide open or climb on trees or repair some items in the house? We are living in a time where we have more and more awareness and are free to live out of this box thinking!

For generations it was not possible for people to live as they would have liked for the social pressures and dependencies. This is so much more possible today and  there might always be some kind of dependency – but we can move towards being as free as we can and want.

Link to the article:

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Beard Exhibition in Berlin until 3rd of July 2016

20151210_161840The first exhibition in Berlin about Beards is taking place in the Neues Museum in Berlin, Germany. The exhibition started in December 2015 and will end on the 3rd of July 2016. Objects that are related to shaving and beards from all the different museums of Berlin are gathered.

I am very proud to have contributed an installation to this exhibition that I did build and design myself. It is a rebuild of the show booth, or hut, that I was travelling with, around europe to festivals during the past 5  years, mainly to festivals in Italy and also to france, denmark, sweden and germany. the purpose was to inform and show photos of bearded women from the past and from today to let people know, that this phenomenon really exists and that it is quite common for women to have facial hair.

In  doing this it happened that I also used my skills to give psychic readings and palmreadings in the hut and so  it was a mix of informing people and talking with them about their lives and their interests and issues about body and facial hair.

For many it was a challenge and scary to confront themselves with a bearded woman.I did enjoy the intense and intimate contact that I had with people. Some came back to let me know that I did support them and help them on their path in life, which made me very happy and grateful too.

20151209_181152Interesting was that for many it appeared on first sight,  that I was just another show on a festival and interpreting that like in other shows all was just a show and fake: my beard or my breasts or both, the beards in the photos should be photoshoped and what I would tell them by doing readings would be made up too. And then finally when really confronting themselves and being open, they did find out that all was real and not made up at all! Shocking and surprising and opening up doors for many too.

The rebuild version for the museum is a bit smaller, as the ceilings are quite low and it has no roof, but the pictures are improved, I really tried to make them look like old photos and it took me more then two months to do research and build and paint and make the photos to be ready to hang them.

bartclub-10-12-2015The installation is like a second exhibiton in the exhibition of mainly mens beards, showing more than 50 pictures of women with beards. Some women with beards, mainly from the US, did contribute to the exhibition in writing a one pager  about themselves. On a table inside the installation you can sit down and read what they wrote – or watch a short 8 minute interview with me in german.

20151216_172813 So far the interview is only available in german with no subtitles, as there was not the capacity and time for the team that did curate the exhibition to do so, as there was quite a lot to organise. Some of the text in the booklet on the table is in english and I am working to translate the rest as well, so to have both languages for people visiting from other countries that do not speak german.

For those who cannot make it to Berlin there are some videos about the exhibiton – just in german language – so far..- but well, you get some visual impressions. Enjoy!

In the second video you see my installation in the beginning of the video….

The following link is from ZDF german TV Chanel:

https://www.facebook.com/ZDFheute/videos/10153816205570680/

And this one from ARD another german TV Chanel:

https://www.facebook.com/ZDFheute/videos/10153816205570680/

This following video is without words just shoing pieces from the exhibtion:

 

 

Todays Article from Huffington Post about Little Bear the Bearded Lady!

little bearMore and more bearded women show up especially in the US! Today the Huffington Post published an article and interview podcast with Little Bear woman with a beard, working in a “Freekshow” and also having a “normal” Job as a freelancer and writer. More and more women have the courage to show themselves with a beard. They stop fighting facial or body hair, they stop trying to adapt to social norms and the screaming industry of fashion and cosmetics that try to convince women to style themselves as they dictate in order to be lovable and ok. NO! Women with a beard are as ok as any other human being on this planet!! And the more of us are there and be seen, the more it becomes “normal”.This world is interesting because we are different in character and appearance and we have a lot in common as human beings. Hoping for more respect and openess for Women with beards and all other Gender Queer People!

Hier gehts zum heute erschienenen! Artikel der Huffington Post: (englisch)
Podcast Interview:

Free to be myself!! More and more bearded women are loving themselves!!

bearRecently more and more women are showing that they love themselves with their bodyhair. More bearded women are to be seen in the world. One of them is Little Bear! In Seattle Little Bear is part of a Freekshow and also she is a freelancer.

This article  tells you more about her thoughts and life! and the YOUTUBE channel of Little Bear

About Women with Beards on the Blog Bluestocking Blue

Read an article about thoughts about bearded women here on Bluestocking Blue.

Fullmoon in London and a wonderful surprise

It was fullmoon. A very special fullmoon on a very special day.

London at night the moon was so yellow and huge shining over the Thames aside the buildings that were illuminated in blue light. I was not able to remember having seen such a wonderful moon outside of  Hollywoodmovies! It had been a day full of surprises. The whole day I had been exited, like children are before getting their christmas presents. I had been invited to take part in a photoshooting in London. On my way to get therwe I was passing trees and plants in juicy green exploding and cheerful people walking by in the streets of London.

As I arrived in front of the studio, a woman approached me and asked if I also wanted to go  to the PCOS photoshooting. –

PCOS? Not that I would know. I had not been told that this would be the reason! Remembering that I had mentioned in an interview that I had not  been diagnosed with  PCOS. I had been to a Gynakologist years ago, because someone who did an interview did not believe that I was a real woman. (Later I was even asked to have a genetic test for an interview to proove that I was a real woman! )

This gynacologist was as well an endocrinologist and had no explanation for my hairgrowth other then that this was genetic, as she had neither found PCOS nor Diabetes while examining me well. Both might cause hirsutism, but must not.

The woman and I did enter the studio and were welcomed in a very friendly way.

I was asked to sit down and a nice young lady took care of my hair and makeup. She decorated my eyes with long eyelashes. This felt awkward, as I usually do not use any make up. I had difficulties to keep my eyes open. After some time it got better. I had the impression that the heavy feeling on my eylashes went down all my body and made me feel heavy dizzy as if someone had given me a narcotising tablet. – A while later getting used to the feeling I did enjoy the way my eyes did look. I quite liked it – and imagined that it could be nice to wear it more often! Surprising myself with my thoughts.

My eyes went to the other makeup artist in the room and I did notice her wonderful long eyelashes. She told me that she had not to do them every day, but could let someone put them on and then she just needed to go again after a week or so. Cool. Things that I didn´t know.

When my make up was done, I looked around the corner to the waiting room and who was sitting on the sofa!?

It was Harnam Kaur! I was so happy to see her! Had the wish to meet her, but no idea how and now here she was! GREAT! We did hug and it felt very familiar, as if we knew each other already some time. Strange. But sometimes it is like this. Now I knew why I had been exited the whole day! This was my christmas present! 🙂

I was touched to see how feminine she was. Of all the bearded women that I have met so far, she is the most feminine to me.

Two other women that were here had also facial hair but did not show it and treated themselves to get rid of it. I think to remember that one of them said that she would not have the courage to have a beard.

I guess now that Conchita Wurst did win the song contest the media had again more interest in real bearded women.

20140515_220525Meeting Harnam, seeing more and more pictures of bearded women in the media gives me hope – after all these years it feels like a light on the horizon. More and more women show their facial hair, so that one day it can be part of our daily life to see bearded women in the street.

Copyright by Harnam and Mariam

Perhaps we bearded women will have our first competition for the beard? Well, no. I think we would have a meeting not to see who has the longest or most beautiful beard of all, but to communicate, exchange and support one another and make way for other women to be able to accept and live with their facial hair..

We are more and we get stronger.

And it should not matter why a woman has facial hair. She still can love it and keep it. –

– People are so different. And as there are people with different color of skin, people have different expressions of facial or bodyhair, from none to a lot.

I really dislike it if people tell me that I must have a hormonal imbalance. Or other ideas that having facial hair as a woman must be a sickness. How then is it possible that women of certain “races” (difficult what to say for this) have a lot of facial hair!?

How about men having NO facial hair and no bodyhair? Are they sick as well? Would you call someone with another color of skin, then white, sick?

What kind of perception and thinking is it, to put people in a box of being “not normal” or “sick”? People like to sort things and people into boxes label them judge them in order not be afraid of them. And then out of the way in the box they do not have to think anymore about them and the fear is gone, for the moment. I think it is a quite human behaviour and most of us did learn to behave like this. But now it is time to change this and if not for us then for the following generations, in order to live in a tolerant, openminded and peaceful world.

We can teach our children that there is more, then what we told them before. We can teach them not to be afraid of someone who looks different or lives another way of life and that the world is very colorful in their expression.This will open their mind and they will not behave intolerant, as for them it will be part of a world in which they are living. And there is a chance to get rid of homophobia.

And did you ever wonder how humans would great aliens, if they would land on earth?

If human beings are not able to accept and love one another, how could they then love any aliens coming to this planet? (and I have no idea if there are aliens….might be, but no idea…I say it to make you think….and if you were an alien would you like to land on that planet were people act out of fear and might attac and kill you because you look different?)

 

 

 

Once upon a time….there was a bearded lady..

Must have been strange for two women working in a public place where clients come in every day. This morning they had been reading an article about a bearded woman in the metro, a newspaper that is for free on trains and busses  in the UK.

Both had been sharing their thoughts about the article laughing and saying that this was the latest fashion now! A few minutes later, I did enter their workingplace as their client. And they said nothing. They did not show any movement. English people are great in not showing what is going on inside. They have learned to show tolerance and open mindedness or at least a face where you can read nothing from, being polite is important. And I appreciate that. Sometimes it is nice to be treated well instead of having people laughing and joking about me. So this morning they treated me really well. And they did always treat me well. Now we know for a year, as I came in again and again and one of them told me recently this story. I had to laugh. And I am wondering if they had more to say. I might ask again to find out.

I did share the story with a friend of mine and she said: we are living in a world with such a media presence, all the time on the television or internet and papers we are confronted with images, but when it happens, that someone stands in front of us, someone we did see in the media we might react confused or under shock. Two parallel worlds? Talking about a person we see in the media is easy, what if this person comes in a few minutes later and the distant world of a printed picture or video becomes real in 3 D!?